Adoption Truths

1- If the Lord does not call you to adopt, DON’T!

2- Adoption processing takes time. Once God places the call on your heart to adopt, until the moment the child comes home, can take years.

3- The child God places in your home is a stranger before becoming a son or daughter. (Often they become devoted to new siblings before becoming devoted to parents.)

4- ALL adopted children have issues. (Babies are not exempt.)

5- Attachment and/or love can, and often does, take time, even years.

6- Grieving is natural. Expect it. (Grieve loss of referral, dreams, expectations, innocence, etc.)

7- Adoption is a life journey. The child will be facing issues their entire life as a result of circumstances which made them available for adoption. God has given them you to be their parent.

8- Support from others is beneficial to keeping focus. Find other Christian adoptive parents to counsel and affirm you on your adoption journey.

9- Though the adopted child may embrace your family, they may never reflect your “family-isms” (or way of doing things.)

10- Trust the Lord…we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28

11- Adoption is not for wimps or the fool-hardy. It is work!

12- The Word of God will change the hearts of your child. Scripture reading and prayer are essential: individually, as a couple, and as a family. Make family devotions/worship central to your family life.

13- Sin will be one of the primary motivators of your child upon adoption. Fight for their heart: replace lies with truth, use biblical discipline, and teach God’s standards.

14- Never say never to adoption again. As time goes on and you learn to parent the adopted child, there are many more hurting children who need and want parents.

Copyright © 2006 (revised 2010) Robert Sanford. All rights reserved.


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